|If There's No One Beside You When Your Soul Embarks, Then I'll Follow You Into The Dark
||[Feb. 26th, 2013|02:40 pm]
A while ago, apropos of nothing we had been saying, my wife announced "If anything happens to me, I want to you find someone else – maybe one of the ladies at church." I, to our mutual surprise but perfectly reasonably, burst into tears.|
I don't know if I could survive that loss, as I've mentioned before. I'm not even sure if I'd want to. (My current plan is that we'll go simultaneously when we're 127.) (Jefferson still lives.) If I could, I most especially would not want or try to replace her.
And, disregarding all of the foregoing, as for perhaps taking up with one of the ladies at church – um, don't they know me? So that's a non-starter in any case.
"And will she use my golf clubs?"
"Of course not, dear, she's left-handed."
You and I are both of an age when we see people younger than ourselves listed in the Irish Funny Pages. I don't know about the Unindicted Co-Conspirator, but it is something I have thought about. And I'm afraid there just isn't anyone else I would even think about taking up with. I've been living the Life of Riley, spoiled utterly rotten, for the past 21 years. That's a hell of a lot more than most other people get, and more than I deserve.
As I say now and then -- I never thought I would be this happy.
Here's to us, the fortunate few!
Oh, to have a chance at a tiny fraction of what you two blither on about....
A woman I knew for some years recently died of cervical cancer. The man she loved, but could not marry, helped to keep vigil over her.
Talking it over with Stefan, I informed him he wasn't allowed to die on me. His response: "The only way I'm going to die on you is if you go first."
Maybe it's a defense mechanism against the stress that loneliness, grief and heartbreak bring. Or maybe it's the terror of losing the best-loved one, who knows and understands you as well as you do. Whatever it is, I find myself envying the otherwise unenviable couple in "The Notebook," who manage to die together. Neat trick, that, if you can manage it without drugs, guns, or sharp objects.
well.....if it ever happened, and you found yourself lonely and wanting to be with someone else, it would not be considered replacing at all but just filling the void and having companionship to help you through the rest of the rough times and make you smile during the good ones.
As someone who has yet to find ONE person to spend a lifetime with I can understand your assumption that being able to find a second would be unthinkable. That said, it could happen.
2013-03-01 08:16 am (UTC)
...The finding of that -one- special person .
Janet is one of those really rare , one in a million Ladies .
I was lucky too , I'd be berift if she passes before me .